Comments on: Reflecting http://romancewritersrevenge.com/2008/10/13/375/ Hard to Intimidate, Too Damned Drunk to Care Thu, 11 Mar 2010 03:47:32 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: 2nd Chance http://romancewritersrevenge.com/2008/10/13/375/comment-page-1/#comment-10736 2nd Chance Mon, 13 Oct 2008 20:27:00 +0000 http://romancewritersrevenge.com/?p=375#comment-10736 Terrio - The Angelique books are classic! And there's a slew of them. Always figured if Dad knew what I was reading he'd have been a trifle upset. My mom trusted us to read whatever we wanted. But the nuns might not have been so cool, even though it was a very liberal California Catholic school. I have my doubts on the whole books influence the worst of anybody scenario. Why not encourages the best of people? Does Dexter make us want to kill the killers? Doubt it. I know a mom using NCIS to encourage her daughter to persue forensics...go Abby! And I doubt we'll all go after a life in the assassination business after reading Leslie's books. But we might look to taking care of ourselves with more humor and verve. Not a bad thing atall, atall! Terrio – The Angelique books are classic! And there’s a slew of them. Always figured if Dad knew what I was reading he’d have been a trifle upset. My mom trusted us to read whatever we wanted. But the nuns might not have been so cool, even though it was a very liberal California Catholic school.

I have my doubts on the whole books influence the worst of anybody scenario. Why not encourages the best of people? Does Dexter make us want to kill the killers? Doubt it. I know a mom using NCIS to encourage her daughter to persue forensics…go Abby!

And I doubt we’ll all go after a life in the assassination business after reading Leslie’s books. But we might look to taking care of ourselves with more humor and verve. Not a bad thing atall, atall!

]]> By: terrio http://romancewritersrevenge.com/2008/10/13/375/comment-page-1/#comment-10735 terrio Mon, 13 Oct 2008 19:42:06 +0000 http://romancewritersrevenge.com/?p=375#comment-10735 Q - Channel Warren Buffet. Is that better advice? LOL! However, it would help to have his billions, as you mention. I guess I could have said in here that reading any literature can have an influence on us, even if we don't realize it. But I just hate when they say reading Romance is bad for women whereas you rarely hear anyone say reading graphic novels gives people ideas about how to brutally kill people. It's a double standard that drives me crazy. Q – Channel Warren Buffet. Is that better advice? LOL! However, it would help to have his billions, as you mention. I guess I could have said in here that reading any literature can have an influence on us, even if we don’t realize it. But I just hate when they say reading Romance is bad for women whereas you rarely hear anyone say reading graphic novels gives people ideas about how to brutally kill people. It’s a double standard that drives me crazy.

]]> By: terrio http://romancewritersrevenge.com/2008/10/13/375/comment-page-1/#comment-10734 terrio Mon, 13 Oct 2008 19:36:10 +0000 http://romancewritersrevenge.com/?p=375#comment-10734 Irish - I'm so with you on that. I'll take a great personality with intelligence and a sense of humor over studly with no brains and a bad attitude anytime. 2nd Chance - I too went to Catholic school, but my upbringing was quite liberal anyway. I had sex crazy parents and sex was always an open topic. Maybe that's why reading Romance with sex scenes was never all that shocking to me. And I've never heard of those Angelique novels, but they sound fun. ;) Irish – I’m so with you on that. I’ll take a great personality with intelligence and a sense of humor over studly with no brains and a bad attitude anytime.

2nd Chance – I too went to Catholic school, but my upbringing was quite liberal anyway. I had sex crazy parents and sex was always an open topic. Maybe that’s why reading Romance with sex scenes was never all that shocking to me. And I’ve never heard of those Angelique novels, but they sound fun. ;)

]]> By: terrio http://romancewritersrevenge.com/2008/10/13/375/comment-page-1/#comment-10733 terrio Mon, 13 Oct 2008 19:27:57 +0000 http://romancewritersrevenge.com/?p=375#comment-10733 Kathy - Glad to see I'm not the only one. And I can't remember how I started reading romance since neither my mother or grandmother read at all. I just can't ever remember a time when I wasn't reading. Kathy – Glad to see I’m not the only one. And I can’t remember how I started reading romance since neither my mother or grandmother read at all. I just can’t ever remember a time when I wasn’t reading.

]]> By: terrio http://romancewritersrevenge.com/2008/10/13/375/comment-page-1/#comment-10732 terrio Mon, 13 Oct 2008 19:26:46 +0000 http://romancewritersrevenge.com/?p=375#comment-10732 Ely - I'd imagine if writers didn't fall in love with their heroes, the readers wouldnt' either. Nothing wrong with that! And real is what I go for. It's all a reflection of life whether it's called fiction or not. Well, except the para stuff. LOL! Ely – I’d imagine if writers didn’t fall in love with their heroes, the readers wouldnt’ either. Nothing wrong with that! And real is what I go for. It’s all a reflection of life whether it’s called fiction or not. Well, except the para stuff. LOL!

]]> By: Quantum http://romancewritersrevenge.com/2008/10/13/375/comment-page-1/#comment-10731 Quantum Mon, 13 Oct 2008 18:56:30 +0000 http://romancewritersrevenge.com/?p=375#comment-10731 <i> <b>Terri said : </b>I haven’t figured out if you’ve insulted me or not. LOL! Worthless bunk?! That can’t be good. But this was aimed a bit more at women and has much more to do with self esteem than with unrealistic standards or following a romance novel blueprint. And though I’ve studied econ and am studying money and banking right now, I’m afraid all I can tell you about your present investment situation is be happy that everyone else is in the same sinking boat with you. </i> I think I got out of the bed on the wrong side this morning. So sorry Terri. How ungallant of me to suggest that you had written worthless bunk! :oops: Now that I have a little time to reflect I can more clearly see the depth of your vision. Authors do lift examples from real life and adapt them to their writing, particularly where unusual or otherwise interesting personalities are involved so that a book can give an insight into the author's philosophy and ideals. With suitable interpretation it could indeed provide a guide to organising the more romantic side of life. Guess I never thought of it like that before as I normally read romance for its relaxing escapist pleasure. *g* On the world economies, somehow it doesn't reassure me to know that everyone else is sinking in the same boat! On the other hand the history of stock market bubbles and crashes is fascinating and in that light the present crisis should offer a fantastic buying opportunity...if you have the money, the belief and the courage to buy! Fascinating blog Terri. :D Terri said : I haven’t figured out if you’ve insulted me or not. LOL! Worthless bunk?! That can’t be good. But this was aimed a bit more at women and has much more to do with self esteem than with unrealistic standards or following a romance novel blueprint.

And though I’ve studied econ and am studying money and banking right now, I’m afraid all I can tell you about your present investment situation is be happy that everyone else is in the same sinking boat with you.

I think I got out of the bed on the wrong side this morning. So sorry Terri.
How ungallant of me to suggest that you had written worthless bunk! :oops:

Now that I have a little time to reflect I can more clearly see the depth of your vision.
Authors do lift examples from real life and adapt them to their writing, particularly where unusual or otherwise interesting personalities are involved so that a book can give an insight into the author’s philosophy and ideals.
With suitable interpretation it could indeed provide a guide to organising the more romantic side of life.

Guess I never thought of it like that before as I normally read romance for its relaxing escapist pleasure. *g*

On the world economies, somehow it doesn’t reassure me to know that everyone else is sinking in the same boat!

On the other hand the history of stock market bubbles and crashes is fascinating and in that light the present crisis should offer a fantastic buying opportunity…if you have the money, the belief and the courage to buy!

Fascinating blog Terri. :D

]]> By: 2nd Chance http://romancewritersrevenge.com/2008/10/13/375/comment-page-1/#comment-10730 2nd Chance Mon, 13 Oct 2008 18:25:16 +0000 http://romancewritersrevenge.com/?p=375#comment-10730 Oh, la! I can remember the Angelique novels, written Serganne Golen, a husband and wife writing team from France...wrapped in plain brown wrappers as I trotted off to Catholic school... Steamy stuff 35 years ago! Fostered my belief in a strong heroine and romance. (She was strong for books of that era.) Those were the last real romance novels I read for nearly 30 years. But they hung with me as goal of what romance should be about...not always a good thing. Have a friend who traveled to France because of those books, stayed with a Frenchman who was just terrible to her... I would hope the strong independent heroines of today inspire others. They do me, day by day. When I'm down on myself, they are my role models. What would 'whoever' do? But all the reading I did, romance or not, certainly influenced my ideas of what I was going to do with my life. Jack London had me convinced to head to Alaska...never acted on that though. Oh, la! I can remember the Angelique novels, written Serganne Golen, a husband and wife writing team from France…wrapped in plain brown wrappers as I trotted off to Catholic school… Steamy stuff 35 years ago! Fostered my belief in a strong heroine and romance. (She was strong for books of that era.)

Those were the last real romance novels I read for nearly 30 years. But they hung with me as goal of what romance should be about…not always a good thing. Have a friend who traveled to France because of those books, stayed with a Frenchman who was just terrible to her…

I would hope the strong independent heroines of today inspire others. They do me, day by day. When I’m down on myself, they are my role models. What would ‘whoever’ do?

But all the reading I did, romance or not, certainly influenced my ideas of what I was going to do with my life. Jack London had me convinced to head to Alaska…never acted on that though.

]]> By: ReneeLynnScott http://romancewritersrevenge.com/2008/10/13/375/comment-page-1/#comment-10729 ReneeLynnScott Mon, 13 Oct 2008 17:19:36 +0000 http://romancewritersrevenge.com/?p=375#comment-10729 Oh Terri, hubs and I are like fire and ice when we get into a fight, which is a good thing or we'd start the next world war. There are times I absolutely hate him and there are those he believes I had an affair with whoever wrote the Schizophrenic Psycho song. :) He says the writer knows me too well. Kelly and Hal, I read a few inspirationals here and there, and I've always felt the same, they were too perfect, unrealistic. I'm glad to here about the new market, I'm thoroughly excited because those are the books I want to write when I head in the inspirational direction. I could never, ever write in the inspirational box that they expected you to write in. Hellion and Janga, I once had a male friend, tell me he wished his wife read more romance. It seems she was only in the mood after reading. Renee Oh Terri, hubs and I are like fire and ice when we get into a fight, which is a good thing or we’d start the next world war. There are times I absolutely hate him and there are those he believes I had an affair with whoever wrote the Schizophrenic Psycho song. :) He says the writer knows me too well.

Kelly and Hal, I read a few inspirationals here and there, and I’ve always felt the same, they were too perfect, unrealistic. I’m glad to here about the new market, I’m thoroughly excited because those are the books I want to write when I head in the inspirational direction. I could never, ever write in the inspirational box that they expected you to write in.

Hellion and Janga, I once had a male friend, tell me he wished his wife read more romance. It seems she was only in the mood after reading.

Renee

]]> By: Irisheyes http://romancewritersrevenge.com/2008/10/13/375/comment-page-1/#comment-10728 Irisheyes Mon, 13 Oct 2008 16:47:02 +0000 http://romancewritersrevenge.com/?p=375#comment-10728 I vaguely remember maybe one or two romance novels I read as a teen. They were the so-called bodice ripper pirate and virgin variety. Not something I could really relate to, unbelievable as that may sound. I re-discovered romance again about 7 or 8 years ago, after being married for about 7 years at that point. I went about figuring out the characteristics I wanted in the hero for my HEA the old fashioned way – through therapy. LOL So, I didn’t really use them as a guide, but I have gained a whole lot of useful and fun information that has added to my already existing relationship. Let’s just say that just like that fan that Jennifer Crusie quoted, my DH has benefited quite nicely by my return to romance reading. I do totally believe with Hellion’s statement, though. I don’t think romance reading sets up higher or unreasonable expectations. I do think that they empower women and give them the confidence to not settle for anything less than what’s best for them – someone who loves them unconditionally. All the superficial stuff – tall, dark, handsome - is just icing on the cake. The important stuff – being responsible, respectful, considerate, loving – that’s the stuff women need to demand. I don’t know about any of you, but a good looking guy who opens his mouth and spouts asinine comments rapidly loses his appeal. In the same way an ordinary guy who uses manners and speaks like he’s got half a brain in his head (or my Achilles heel – makes me laugh) all of the sudden becomes very attractive. I vaguely remember maybe one or two romance novels I read as a teen. They were the so-called bodice ripper pirate and virgin variety. Not something I could really relate to, unbelievable as that may sound. I re-discovered romance again about 7 or 8 years ago, after being married for about 7 years at that point. I went about figuring out the characteristics I wanted in the hero for my HEA the old fashioned way – through therapy. LOL So, I didn’t really use them as a guide, but I have gained a whole lot of useful and fun information that has added to my already existing relationship. Let’s just say that just like that fan that Jennifer Crusie quoted, my DH has benefited quite nicely by my return to romance reading.

I do totally believe with Hellion’s statement, though. I don’t think romance reading sets up higher or unreasonable expectations. I do think that they empower women and give them the confidence to not settle for anything less than what’s best for them – someone who loves them unconditionally. All the superficial stuff – tall, dark, handsome – is just icing on the cake. The important stuff – being responsible, respectful, considerate, loving – that’s the stuff women need to demand. I don’t know about any of you, but a good looking guy who opens his mouth and spouts asinine comments rapidly loses his appeal. In the same way an ordinary guy who uses manners and speaks like he’s got half a brain in his head (or my Achilles heel – makes me laugh) all of the sudden becomes very attractive.

]]> By: Kathy http://romancewritersrevenge.com/2008/10/13/375/comment-page-1/#comment-10727 Kathy Mon, 13 Oct 2008 16:45:24 +0000 http://romancewritersrevenge.com/?p=375#comment-10727 Great blog, Terri! :) I started reading romance when I was 15. Could never figure out why Mom didn't want to talk when she was reading. LOL. I do believe reading romance molded my life in certain ways. And I especially believe that reading romance has helped me through lonely times when my DH had to be away on duty. Great blog, Terri! :)

I started reading romance when I was 15. Could never figure out why Mom didn’t want to talk when she was reading. LOL.

I do believe reading romance molded my life in certain ways. And I especially believe that reading romance has helped me through lonely times when my DH had to be away on duty.

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